May 2012
112 posts
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(A)sexual documentary on YouTube
redbeardace:
I’d like to point out that although the documentary appears to be on YouTube a week early, that’s because someone pirated it.
Which, of course, is so not cool. It wasn’t made by some multi-billion dollar mega-corp who’s out to gouge you for every penny they can, after all.
So I’m not watching it yet. I’m waiting until it is officially and legitimately released next week and I...
moarhelenplz:
redbeardace:
lord-kitschener:
I wish I wasn’t so shitty at arguing about asexuality.
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Here’s my take:
You are not the jackass whisperer. It’s not your job to make them understand and accept you. They will never accept us, no matter how many electrons are wasted trying to do so. I’m all for mocking and ridicule, but anyone who’s trying to actually convince them...
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historykrackenoftheabyss replied to your post: Today my therapist asked me how often I have my…
Oh wow, I didn’t know apps like that existed. Thanks so much. :)
Optimism is free right now, too! :) Usually it’s 25 bucks.
Mom: why are you doing that?
Me: Because Sherlock holmes did it.
Mom: if Sherlock Holmes jumped off a buildin-
Me: *gross sobbing*
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oh hey
it’s gone
i’m okay again
Today my therapist asked me how often I have my depressive meltdowns and I realized I had no idea. I’ve decided to start keeping track in the hopes of getting some perspective on what’s happening here. I downloaded an app called Optimism because I find technological aids really helpful in terms of organizing my life (I would live in my computer if I could — it seems like it...
misterjmasters:
roidescoeurs:
benditlikebeifong:
Oh yeah, I also found out today that the place I considered my little safe haven where I can sit and read and buy comics and games and books and movies and so on?
Yeah apparently there’s been a behind the scenes pool on which one of the workers there fucks me first.
Apparently the pool has been going on for two years and they all talk about...
Okay, I thought I was done with this topic, but I...
moarhelenplz:
emerald-ace:
shiyiya:
southpawscopic:
mylittlehazmat:
lizziegoneastray:
The thing for me about people trying to divide asexual people up according to romantic orientation is that to me, it feels like they’re trying to split our community up. We never agreed to that, and furthermore, there are so damn few asexuals in the world that we can’t really afford to splinter...
hey guys
just so you know, all the depressing stuff i keep saying right now is magnified 10x by my depression. i will be okay. just… not yet. apparently.
swankivy:
lord-kitschener:
I wish I wasn’t so shitty at arguing about asexuality.
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Honestly I kinda feel like there’s no shame in having no idea what to say to these people. When an argument is as baseless as theirs, it’s hard to take it seriously. Which kind of leaves one with an empty feeling of “Why the hell are they even saying this? What could it possibly be based on?”
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greenchestnuts:
voltafiish:
so apparently that ceratopsian tumblr that thinks asexuals are creepy
apparently said person is a radfem
ha ha
ha ha ha ha
wow
Why do you say that?
I’m not saying you’re wrong, but I really dislike radfems, so before I start ignoring someone on the basis that they are one, I want to be sure I’m right.
Wait, you’ll ignore someone on the basis that...
why the fuck does morningchorus keep showing up in...
I blocked them a long-ass time ago.
voltafiish:
lord-kitschener:
maresalsalis:
I don’t think this will work but let’s try it:
If you think “trans privilege” exists
or that trans* women have male privilege
or believe in biological determinism
or think that trans* people routinely sexually assault cis people
please leave now
Seriously, unfollow me right now.
YES. PLEASE UNFOLLOW ME TOO IF YOU THINK THIS
Fourthed.
lol i just found my old character sheets
the irony of it
i’m sorry, guys. i know i’m sort of impossible right now. it’s just that i’m horrendously depressed and can’t seem to shake it. now i’ve lost a bunch of friends because of it. i’m not trying to be un-cheer-up-able, it’s just that acting happy feels unbearably fake right now. thanks, though. i do appreciate all the positive input n’...
southpawscopic replied to your post: How does one make friends in a big city when one is clinically depressed and not in school?
I try to organize ace meetups. If there aren’t any already in your city, maybe you could start them? I’m sure there’d be interested people! Also hobby groups like on meetup.com?
I found my DnD group through meetup.com. Now…
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I think Hahn was involved in the making of the...
He just called Sokka Soh-ka. Let’s blame it all on him. XD
“Males are not females. Women have a perfect right to set boundaries with men....”
– Roseverbena
“trans” mythology
Okay, so in other words, this person wants to make an argument for trans women not being allowed in women’s spaces on account of the fact that they are creepy middle-aged registered sex offenders. That doesn’t sound at all like a misunderstanding and deliberate...
one major misconception corrected and several...
okay, that helps. i feel a little more worthwhile.
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pmzzo replied to your post: Apparently I’ve been dragging down the group at DnD.
What a lovely thing to say to someone.
If it’s true, then I’d rather know than not, but…
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thechronicblunderer replied to your post: How does one make friends in a big city when one is clinically depressed and not in school?
groups! LGBT groups, craft groups, idk.
[tw: depression, brief mention of suicide] I tried that. ’S how I ended up sitting here crying over my guitar learning a new Avril Lavigne song because it’s all I can think of that expresses my feelings of...
How does one make friends in a big city when one...
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Apparently I've been dragging down the group at...
Oh. Okay. Guess I won’t go back for a while, then.
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You guys?
moarhelenplz:
lizziegoneastray:
Why do we define sexual attraction the way we do? Why do we separate it out so much from things like sex drive and arousal and aesthetic attraction? When I actually talk to people in my life about this kind of stuff, their experiences often aren’t that much different from mine. I’m actually having a hard time figuring out if they really experience this...
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shiyiya replied to your post: You guys?
I’m demi, so grace spectrum? I know what sexual attraction and not-sexual-attraction feel like (to me anyway)
What are they, then? If you could describe it in a way that differentiates it from all the other nuances the ace community talks about without saying anything along the lines of “you know it when you feel it,” that would be really,...
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You guys?
Why do we define sexual attraction the way we do? Why do we separate it out so much from things like sex drive and arousal and aesthetic attraction? When I actually talk to people in my life about this kind of stuff, their experiences often aren’t that much different from mine. I’m actually having a hard time figuring out if they really experience this “sexual...
aavotica:
mostlydeplorable replied to your question: Just a prestatement, I will never …
Semantics. Words change meanings as people desire. This is fucking obnoxious and insulting, did you know that?
Yeah, I offend people a lot. I’ve given up saying sorry about it, because it’s not going to stop people from being offended. I know I don’t know everything and my word is definitely not the be all...
Away with the labels!
swankivy:
I’mma explain something very simple to all you people who keep telling asexuals to stop labeling themselves.
Labels help us have conversations. Labels help us acknowledge experiences. Labels exist because when things exist, they have a name.
When you tell us repeatedly that we shouldn’t name how we feel, you’re telling us you’d rather we have no words to discuss our lives. No...
Songwriting is like a wrestling match with...
Ripping the truth out of your core and forcing it into the sun.
It doesn’t want to be in the sun.
Being asexual =/= being neutrois
metapianycist:
I’m sick of the ace tags being full of people posting articles about and commenting on that Japanese neutrois person who had an elective removal of their genitals and tagging it #asexual and #asexuality. Do some goddamn research about people who {want to have a neutral-appearing body} and you’ll find out that—at least in English—it’s not called asexuality.
(This post has been...
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2149879/Jap... →
annaphylaxia:
i don’t think mao sugiyama is all that strange… i think asexuality will always be misunderstood by most people :/
Including you, since that’s not actually what asexual means.
“Being asexual instead of sexual is like being left-handed instead of...”
– http://www.asexuality.org/home/node/21
I love this quote so much, and I think it’s applicable to much more than just asexuality. (via nerdfightersdftba)
Something I'd just like to point out:
greenchestnuts:
lizziegoneastray:
Really? I’m completely comfortable with it. These people are not our friends and they never will be. I am completely comfortable with the idea that by trying to put us down, they are instead raising us up, and I’m completely comfortable with the notion that that means we’re “winning.” I’m okay with triumphing over their hatred and bile. And I’m okay with...
Poll Finds Blacks More Likely To Support Sane-Sex... →
fucknodansavage:
A recent poll found support for same-sex marriage is at 62% among Blacks vs 50% among Whites. So, tell us again about “Black homophobia”, Dan?
also i probably shouldn't have cussed at that...
there’s a nicer way to tell people they’re wrong and at least they were trying
My anxiety levels are at an 11 help
my voice teacher called and cancelled so there are only going to be like 5 people here and i was supposed to bring 20 and what happened here and HELP
also i have bills HELP
also my sister is coming and only told me Monday HELP
and my apartment is a mess HELP
i am freaking the fuck out
Hey Tumblr, stop telling me about your sexuality....
thehellofitall:
Nobody cares but you. Shut up.
Hey tumblr users like this one, stop telling me you don’t give a shit about the same things I do. Nobody cares but you. Shut up.
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And the anti-ace brigade completely ignores...
swankivy:
lizziegoneastray:
shaolina:
moarhelenplz:
raumlet:
:golfclap:
……………
They have some interesting superiority complexes about teens. What, did they just turn 20? Dawww.
Way to keep clutching at those straws… Nevermind I’m 25 years old.
22 here, and living on my own in a big city. So y’know.
Self-sufficient aromantic asexual. Age 34. Whee, I’m so ancient that I’m...
“If you want to get a guy, you’ve got to put yourself out there!”
– 11. the worst advice you’ve ever heard, or ever been given
I don’t even know where to begin. Propably with the thing where I am very, very asexual.
(via iamnotalungfish)
wtf do people even mean when they say that? “put myself out there”? what, like, are there these secret dating...
It's An Orientation.
asexual-love:
I’ve had a pretty recent encounter with a boy. I explained I was Asexual to him, and he asked a lot of questions. I answered them to the best of my ability, and thought we were very clearly on the same page. It wasn’t until he advanced toward me for sexual intimacy that I realized…he thought he could change me.
Dear any readers who are NOT asexual: Asexuality isn’t a choice, it’s...
And the anti-ace brigade completely ignores...
shaolina:
moarhelenplz:
raumlet:
:golfclap:
……………
They have some interesting superiority complexes about teens. What, did they just turn 20? Dawww.
Way to keep clutching at those straws… Nevermind I’m 25 years old.
22 here, and living on my own in a big city. So y’know.
Something I'd just like to point out:
greenchestnuts:
lizziegoneastray:
The more the anti-ace brigade shouts at us, the more publicity we get and the more people show up in the tags identifying as ace who might never have heard of it before now. So. As far as I’m concerned, we’re actually winning here.
While I know what you mean, I’m not comfortable with the idea that we’re “winning.” I’m not particularly coherent this morning...
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Something I'd just like to point out:
The more the anti-ace brigade shouts at us, the more publicity we get and the more people show up in the tags identifying as ace who might never have heard of it before now. So. As far as I’m concerned, we’re actually winning here.
I hate gifs that move too fast for me to read them...
Word to the wise: if I can’t read it in time, chances are, most other people can’t either.
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fishingboatproceeds:
edwardspoonhands:
On my most recent video I saw a whole ton of comments from people saying “I never see pre-rolls on Vlogbrothers videos because I have AD BLOCK installed.” Well, two problems here.
No one sees pre-rolls on vlogbrothers videos because we don’t run them
I am not sure how I feel about Ad Blockers and I wish you would consider your decision more carefully,...